I have found that there are three kinds of people in life: –
- Vampires – who suck the joy out of your life and the energy from your very soul. Think: negative, critical, snide, arrogant, know-it-all, taker, won’t listen, exploitative, secretive, petty – I think you get the idea.
- Vanillas – who don’t really taste of anything much and don’t have a positive or negative effect upon you. Think: John Major
- Voltages – just fill you with energy. Think: giver, listener, encourager, positive, open, honest, suggestive, fun and interesting.
Here’s another thought. What are you to other people? I’m guessing you’d like to think you’re a Voltage but are you sure? What about this for a suggestion: as you connect with people during the next week or so why not ask yourself as you finish the encounter “did I just make them feel better about themselves or worse?”. Just a bit of fun really but could be quite illuminating.
I happen to have a list of people who I see solely because they are voltages: I can’t do business with them; they won’t introduce me to anybody I can do business with; they may not have information or expertise that I want but they all lift my spirits and bring me alive.
So here’s the skinny: actively get rid of the vampires, avoid the vanillas and seek out as many voltages as you can.
What’s your ratio of vamps to volts then and what are you going to do about it?